I may not have it all together but I do know what has worked for our family. If I could have things my way, the house would be spotless all the time. When I was living at home with my parents, I did have a clean room. You ask my Mom and she would tell you that most of the time, it was the cleanest room in the house. Now, with 3 kids and a hubby, my house is no way near as clean as I would like it to be. I would love to tell you that we have a clean house most days and that it is only on occasion that we have a huge mess to pick up, but that just is not the case. It is a constant battle to keep things where they are suppose to be, and to get the kids and hubby involved in cleaning.
With ADHD in the house, on many levels, it really is a battle. I am constantly being asked where their toys are, where the remote is, what happened to the dish brush, and on and on all day long. Now maybe you have just taken a huge sigh of relief that you are not alone. Good! I’m glad you can see that there are others in similar situations. Just because we have a problem, ADHD, in the house doesn’t mean that we don’t try and keep things organized. We do try, and teaching the kids so they understand why we do those dreaded chores is a huge goal.
Getting past the Dread
- First things first, YOU need to be the example for your kids. That is much harder than it sounds, I know. If you are sitting in front of the TV, the kids are going to sit in front of the TV. If you are working hard around the house doing chores, they are more likely to step in and help.
- Don’t worry about where you are, just keep thinking about where you want to be. Getting the house in order is a hard task, especially if it is far from it right now. However, once it is looking good, it is sooooo much easier to maintain it. So keep thinking that soon you will be on top and only have to worry about maintenance. You can’t get there unless you start.
- Take it a little bit at a time. Set a timer and work for 20 minutes. When the timer goes off, take a break and work on something else. It is amazing what you can accomplish in 20 minutes.
- Have some kind of a routine. Having ADHD myself, keeping to a schedule is really hard. I feel so much better when I am sticking to it, but more often than not, we end up veering away from it. Having a routine in place is much easier to stick with. For example, when I wake, before I can get my coffee I start a load of laundry. That way while I am enjoying my cup of Joe, the laundry is already on it’s way to getting clean. Finding what works for you will take time, but little routines like this help me to keep things going, even when my ADHD kicks in and I run after a squirrel somewhere.
- Know that there are going to be hidden corners of clutter all around and that is okay, for now. For myself, we have a mound on our dresser. I know it is there, and I know it needs to be taken care of. But, overall we are able to function in our home, and even if company comes over, the mound in our bedroom is not going to be something they will ever see. Now, I am not saying to keep tons and tons of hidden mounds of stuff, but I am saying that it is okay to give yourself permission to have a few mounds here and there to get yourself on the right track, and to not feel so overwhelmed. If you are working at it, those mounds will disappear, eventually.
So now that we know how to get past our own dread of doing chores, what is it that chores are going to teach our kids? There are so many values that chores teach. Here is a small list of some of the values chores teach our kids.
What do Chores Teach?
- Respect for our home
- Roles in the family
- Organization skills
- Living in Peace
- Contentment for what we have
- Work ethic
So how do simple chores teach the kids all these values and more? Stay tuned because on January 2nd, we will dive more in depth into getting the kids involved in this process. What that means for us as parents, what that does for our home, and how getting them involved will teach them all these values and more. Next month, every Friday, we will be Tackling Our Home. Each Friday will be all about a different section of our home and how we can work with this battle that ADHD has brought us.
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