I hope you have been enjoying the holidays, as that is what we have been doing. So, if you have been missing us, I’m sorry, but good news is that we are back!!! Here is an updated post from last year, that is a great reminder for all of us. I hope it helps get your new year on the right track, whatever track that might be for you.
I would say that I am not a resolutions kind of girl. I would think of myself as more a goal kind of girl. What do I mean by that? Well, when I think of resolutions, I think of a long list of wants and needs all bundled up into an un-completeable mound of disappointment. No one likes disappointment, and with ADHD where disappointment can happen frequently, why set myself up for it. So at the beginning of every year, I like to think about the biggest goals that I believe I can attain, that could truly change how we live for the better.
Some years these goals have been the typical like weight loss, better eating, more family time, but others have been more subtle, like organizing our homeschool room or getting into a better routine for the kids. All of these goals will help our life to run much smoother and keep us healthier. It would be nice to tackle all of these goals at once, but that is just setting myself up for failure. So each year I try and pick just one goal/resolution that I want/need to change about our family life and make a plan to accomplish it.
Goals/Resolutions are great, but only if you truly are able to make a plan to stick with them, so in the end you can see the accomplishment you so greatly desire. Am I the perfect example of this, definitely not. Even with only picking one goal there have been years were I just didn’t reach my goal. However, in the end, I was farther along the path to accomplishing that goal, then I was at the beginning of the year. So how do I work at sticking with my goals? How do I make a plan to accomplish them?
- Start with a goal that is attainable. If you really want to lose weight, but you just don’t want to exercise or watch what you eat, then losing weight would not be an attainable goal. Think of something that you really feel a passion to fix/work on in your life. Those are the goals that you are most likely going to stick with even when change is getting old.
- Get the family involved. Goals are great, but if you are the only one who knows about them, then you are more likely to slack off after a while. If you get your family involved in the change then you can work on whatever the goal is together. When one of you is ready to give up, another family member can hold you up and carry you through the rough patch.
- Have a plan. Yes, I did say plan. Maybe the plan will change as the year goes by, but for now think of what you can do everyday during the month of January to work on your goal. Habits take time to set in. I believe the saying goes that it takes 20 days to set a routine in stone. That is just about an entire month. So lets lay out our first 30 days of our new goal. I get overwhelmed very easy with large tasks so breaking up the tasks into smaller ones makes every goal more attainable. Get a blank calendar out and mark it up with a simple task you can do each day during this month to get you on a great start to achieving your goal. These are simple tasks remember. For example, if your goal is to lose weight then maybe every Thursday you weigh yourself and mark down your weight. Maybe you track all the food you eat. Maybe on some days you direct yourself to exercise. Do this for all the days in January. At the end of the month you most likely will not have achieved your goal, but at least you will be on the right path.
- Stick with it. Sticking with it is the hard part. However we have just finished laying out our plan for the month of January. So for now, all you need to focus on is the daily goal you set for yourself. At the end of January revisit your daily goals. Were you able to keep to them? Could you change some of them to work better for you or your habits? When January comes to a close set daily goals for February. By only looking one day at a time you should be able to attain your goal much easier. Just keep thinking to yourself that you only have to work on this goal through the current month. Stop thinking this is a year long process. You are only working on this goal for this month and you are only working on one task today. Yes, next month you will have the same goal, but you will have new daily tasks set up, and only for that month. You will revisit your goal at the end of every month to adjust things as needed. Remember, YOU CAN DO THIS!
What is the one attainable goal you plan to focus on this year?