Today was a typical homeschooling day, however we started our lessons later than normal. Since I am getting over a cold, I really needed the extra sleep, and apparently so did my kids. After our lessons we piled into our SUV and headed down to our local supermarket to stock up on groceries. Before we even left the driveway I told my two younger kids that if they behaved, we could eat dinner at a fast food place they loved. My oldest one was busy today so he wouldn’t have to go shopping.
I should have known that it was going to be one of “those” kind of trips from the start. I was so unprepared. I had my menu app, shopping list with me but I forgot to add to it all the other things I needed to get. I was going to have to wing it. When we finally parked I only had one of my kids jump out of the car, the other pretended to be sleeping. Of course he would be the child sitting all the way in the back seat.
I did finally get him out of the car and we headed into the store. Today of all days, the store had piled a TON of clearance items, toys I might add, right near the front door. Of course, what do my kids want…all of them. So that started the shopping trip of me constantly saying “No, stop asking.”, and then it got worse. As we went from aisle to aisle, filling up the shopping cart and checking off things from my shopping list I realized I had a rebellion on my hands.
My little one, who mind you, was also the same one who pretended to be sleeping when we got there, was pushing every button I think I had. I would say “Hold onto the cart please”, and he would purposefully back away. I would say “Don’t touch that” and he would knock it off the shelves. I stopped, got down at his level and asked if he still wanted to go out to eat tonight. Of course he said yes so I again reminded him that not listen is not going to make that happen. That he needed to behave if he wanted to go. That this was his last chance to still be able to go out to eat.
What happened just a few seconds later? He was climbing into the toilet paper rack to make a fort! Really, no joke. I helped him out of the rack and then told him that we would not be going out to eat. Of course what do you think my well-behaved, older, child was thinking and saying…”But Mom, I was behaving!” At about this point I was ready to tear my hair out.
Normally in a situation like this I have heard other parents say to just leave everything in your cart and go home; to try again another day. The problem here is that it is over 20 miles to our “local” store, so coming back another time takes up soooo much more time and money. We were just about done so I thought let’s just try and make it through this. I told my well-behaved child not to worry, we would still be getting some yummy food. My plan was to go through the drive through for him and I, and get something else for my littlest one.
When we were in the dairy aisle I reached into the cooler door only to have my littlest one purposely push the cart away from us, while my older one was struggling with him to stop it. I turned around and broke up the fight. I told my youngest to stop it, that he needed to behave or he would be going to bed right when we got home. Apparently that was the wrong thing to say because he pushed the cart away again, right in front of me, and this time almost running it right into the glass doors. Ahhh, really? Really??
I got down to his level again and explained to him that not only was he NOT going to be eating out tonight but that he would be going STRAIGHT to bed when we got home. I reminded him that he still needed to behave the rest of the shopping trip or he would have another punishment. I told him I would put back the Jell-O Jigglers kit I found in the first aisle we were shopping in. That did it, he calmed right down and started to cry softly. He walked next to me the rest of the shopping trip and didn’t touch anything else. Apparently that Jell-O Jigglers kit was really important to him.
After leaving the store I went through the drive through and got everyone some food, however our littlest man did not get the typical soda and toy kind of meal. We all ate our food in the SUV. When we got home, we put him to bed right away, just like I told him I was going to do.
Hopefully I won’t be having anymore shopping trips like that, ever again. More importantly, I hope our littlest one realizes that I mean business when I say something. I really did feel like one of “those” Moms today. The Moms who don’t have it all together and can’t even get her own kids to obey her. Ah, but it is over and I did finish the shopping. The kids are all asleep and tomorrow is a new day.
Have you ever had a shopping trip like we had today? How did you handle it?