Christmas at our house went pretty well. We had to change around our usual traditions a bit with hubby working and other things going on in the family, but overall it was a good Christmas. We were able to be together, even if just for the morning, and everyone had plenty of gifts to open.
With Christmas just past (mostly, since we still have a visit coming up with my grandparents in January) there is always a few days of contentment for everyone. The kids are all happy with their new toys, putting them together, exploring how they work, and just enjoying them quietly. Us adults are content with the peace in the home and the slower pace of life. Just enjoying being in the moments we have with our kids.
Every year I try to head out shopping the day after Christmas to stock up on wrapping paper, decorations, and all that yummy food I can get half off. This year was no exception. The kids went with me this year since hubby had to work. I promised the kids that I would take them to the newly opened frozen yogurt shop afterwards, if they behaved. I figured that would be the trick to getting the shopping done and still enjoying this Christmas season. Apparently, I was wrong.
The stores were really busy, more so then usual for this time of year. I was able to get most of what I was looking for, and told the kids we could look in the electronics section. They got a new video game set for Christmas and they wanted to look at all the different characters they could get to use with it. They were so excited, and when we got to the electronics section that is when the melt down happened.
Hayden, my youngest, saw that they had the character he really wanted for Christmas but never got. He grabbed at it and just about threw it in the cart. I talked to him about how just because he wants it doesn’t mean that we are going to get it. He got a lot of great things for Christmas and he should be happy with what he has. That we were just here to look at them. That he could add it to his list for his Birthday. Our little chat did not go over well.
He was adamant that he should have that toy. That he was supposed to get it for Christmas since he put it on his list. No matter what I said to him, he just did not seem to understand. I knew he wanted this toy for Christmas, but with everything else he had on his list I really didn’t think this one toy was the make it or break it toy. Apparently, I was wrong. He cried continuously while we checked out at the store, and still all the way home (and no we did not stop at the frozen yogurt shop). Every time I talked to him about calming down, or suggested that he might be able to get it soon, he would cry even harder.
At six years old, I really thought that he would understand how to be grateful for what you have. It’s not like this is the first time he is learning this stuff. What is it that I am missing? How could he be so upset about this one toy when he got so many others? What should I be doing to get through to him? So many questions, and no easy answers. I just keep telling myself, that I must be doing something right. I have two older kids who understand being grateful for what they have, and I parented them the same way. He will get it someday, I just really wish it was sooner rather than later.
Are you dealing with a similar problem this soon after Christmas? How are you handling it?