I don’t know about you, but one of my favorite decorations at Christmas time is a snowy village full of festive buildings, happy people, and lights everywhere. I love the look of a miniature village set up in our house and always like to stop and stare when I see others who have decorated with a village as well. All the little people in these villages seem to be filled with the Christmas spirit. No problems to worry about, and only shopping, time with family and fun to be had. However, life just isn’t like those Christmas villages. Problems happen without notice, even at Christmas time. Not every building gets decorated for Christmas and for sure not everyone you run into is cheery. So how are we to keep a positive, cheery attitude when things are not so perfect around us?
Focus on the Positive
Not everyone is going to decorate their house with pretty lights, a Christmas tree or even a Christmas village. However, instead of looking at all the houses that aren’t decorated, imagine how much more enjoyable a drive around town would be if you only focused on the decorated ones. The same is true about meeting people who aren’t in the Christmas spirit. I like to think of those people as Scrooges, in my mind of course. And hey, even that is from a Christmas story. We can’t control everyone else’s attitudes at Christmas, or anytime for that matter, but we can control ours. So look for the positives in your own village and focus on those things. It will make a world of difference.
Can you name 3 things you could change your own attitude about this Christmas, to focus on the positives instead of negatives?
Keep Things Simple
This is so much easier to say than do, but boils down to be willing to say NO. There are so many great Christmas traditions but fitting them all in can be a daunting task, in and of itself. My suggestion is to pick your 5 most favorites of traditions and focus on those. Even though you many have fewer traditions to enjoy, you actually should have more quality with the ones you decided to keep around. Imagine the joy of making Christmas cookies with the kids and not worrying about having to get it all done in one day. Who cares if you make the cookies one day and decorate them the next? I know I don’t. They taste just as good to me. And it isn’t so much about how quick or slow you accomplish a tradition, it is about enjoying the time you have when you are in it, instead of worrying about what is next on the Christmas tradition list. At the end of this year’s Christmas season, you will be able to look back and instead of seeing a whirl-wind of activity, you can look back and see the joy of spending quality time with family in the few things you did say yes to.
What are going to be your top 5 picks for Traditions this year?
Believe it or not, there may not be snow come Christmas. What kind of Christmas village has no snow at Christmas, right?! We can’t change if we have snow for Christmas but we can improvise. A dear friend of mine posted a picture recently of some fake snowballs she brings out each Christmas season. She lives down south where snow is something they might never see. I thought that was such a great idea. Now her family can have “snowball” fights even without snow. Hey, they could even stick them in the freezer for a bit before they start their fight right, lol. This is such a great example of what I am talking about. On the first Christmas, Mary and Joseph had to improvise with where they could stay. They had to make a barn work for bringing new life into this world. It’s okay if you need to improvise to carry on a favorite tradition at Christmas. Hey, even the improvising brings more life to your own Christmas story.
Are there other ways you can improvise to give you that Christmas spirit feeling in your own Not So Perfect Village?
I think one of the things that make the perfect village look so perfect, is we do not know everyone’s story there. We can look on the outside and see the decorations, presents, and kids playing and think, “Man wouldn’t it be nice to live in a place like that, at Christmas.” Just remember that every village has its own problems, even the ones that look perfect on the outside. So no matter where you are, enjoy this Christmas season with the village you have. Focus on the Positives, Keep Things Simple and Improvise if you need to because your Not So Perfect Village is the only one you’ve got and the one God has you in for now.